Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Somerset Hills

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Follow up to “Gaining from Loss” time for all ages 10MAY15

Author Sarah Ahrens, Written May 11, 2015

During the time for all ages on 10MAY15 I told an abbreviated version of the book, Alexander, Who’s Not (Do you hear me?  I mean it!) Going to Move by Judith Viorst.

In it, Alexander recounts his frustration and resistance at having to move to a new house 1000 miles away due to his father starting a new job.  Alexander shares his lamentations over leaving special places where he has made special memories with special people.  He eventually, begrudgingly, comes around to packing his things and the story ends with a sense that he is at least open to discovering new places, meeting new people, and making new memories in his new home and community.

This story illustrates one of the many circumstances that life can throw our way that result in feelings of loss.  In addition to the losses experienced, there are also opportunities for gain.

I will leave that and an assortment of other books that explore the experience of loss on the table outside my office through May 17.  Feel free to peruse them!  And here again are the wondering questions that I offered at the end:

I wonder if we’ve felt the losses that Alexander was feeling…

I wonder if we’ve reacted and responded the way Alexander did…

I wonder how a UU community can be supportive when we experience losses like Alexander, and other kinds of losses…

I wonder what all of us can gain from such losses?

May the spirit of life and love surround us in both our experiences of loss and gain, as we depart for children’s chapel.